Is she cheating on you? The 5 signs you should never ignore
Love makes the world go round, they say. It’s a many-splendored thing – it’s even the title of an old-school movie made long ago.
When you’ve found the woman of your dreams, you are not only in love, but feel inspired, high on life, and even invincible. The sweet, adoring love of a good woman is more valuable than gold.
French philosopher Jean de La Bruyère opined that “the sweetest of all sounds is that of the voice of the woman we love.”
This is undoubtedly true, as many a love-struck man will admit. But that sweet sound can go suddenly and horribly sour at the realization that your sweetheart might be cheating on you.
Hopefully, this excruciating experience won’t ever happen to you. However, knowledge is power, so educate yourself to avoid being taken for a fool. Read on to find out 5 signs that your lady love might be giving out some of that love on the side.
She treats her phone like a nuclear device
Look, we all have a bit of a smartphone addiction these days, and it’s not uncommon to become glued to it at times. Whether you’re playing Angry Birds, reading funny tweets, or texting – we all do that, and it’s not suspicious behavior. If it was, a lot of people would be in trouble!
In addition, it’s not wrong to expect privacy on your phone, whether or not you’re in a serious relationship.
However, if your girl suddenly puts three kinds of password code requirements on her phone, takes it with her whenever she leaves the room (even just to go to the restroom) and freaks out if you touch it – this is a red flag.
She deserves privacy, just like you do – but unless she has something to hide, or is in charge of nuclear war codes, there is no reason on earth for her to treat her phone like it will explode on impact if someone else touches it.
She is suddenly busy. Very, very busy
No one is immune to the busy nature of life today. Whether one is in a relationship or not – there are numerous demands on our time. Work, business meetings, workout sessions at the gym, school – all take chips out of our waking hours.
There is nothing even remotely suspicious about being busy. Even when there is a certain stretch of time, like studying for finals, preparing for an important work presentation, and so on – there is no need for alarm.
On the other hand, if your girl is inexplicably “too busy” for quality time with you, with no warning and no identifiable good reason – this is a signal that something might be amiss.
Add volume to that signal if she is vague or even secretive about her whereabouts or activities. If she gets unusually defensive if you ask (reasonable) questions about what she is up to lately, it’s time to assess what is going on.
New clothes, new man?
It’s sensible and fair to want to look your best, and that goes for your girl as well. In fact, having a girlfriend or wife who takes pride in looking nice is a very good sign.
Still, if she suddenly starts buying new outfits, sexy heels and accessories at an alarming rate – well, that could be cause for alarm. Especially if she is also suddenly paying attention to grooming habits you’ve never expected or noticed. Weekly waxing, pedicures, hairstyles and other new looks and habits that seem to come out of nowhere – might not have “come out of nowhere.”
Is she suddenly feeling passionate about impressing you? Maybe. But if she is vamping it up style-wise, yet spending less time with you – that’s not a good sign.
If your typically self-confident and secure girlfriend starts acting suspicious about your every move, this is behavior that needs explaining.
If you aren’t up to anything but life-as-usual and aren’t being suddenly secretive, then why would she suddenly become insecure?
Answer: she’s probably not insecure at all, she’s just diverting your attention from her own less-than-stellar behavior.
“Sorry, I’ve got a headache”
No one should expect their significant other to always be “on” and ready for a roll in the hay. Especially once you have passed the honeymoon phase of your relationship, it’s natural and quite normal for the quantity of your sexual sessions to go down a bit.
If she is suddenly putting it off repeatedly, and making up numerous creative excuses to get out of lovemaking, this is definitely a bad sign.
It could be she is depressed, or just going through a rough time at work or school, but if you suspect that neither of those reasons apply to the dry spell, it’s decidedly suspicious.
While it is important to stay alert to the red flags and signs of an unfaithful partner, it is easily critical to not rush to judgment. There are many reasons your girl could behave oddly at any given time, and usually it’s not because she is cheating.
If she is unfaithful, though, this list is a very good guide to the most common signs.